How to get started: add simple joys to your day.

Getting started is often the hardest part. If you are anything like me I can get stuck in trying to decide how to start, what to do, will others make fun of me, will it actually do anything…the list of excuses can go on and on. But, when it comes down to it, if you are honest with yourself then you know the excuses have gotten you nowhere and real fast. Plus, these excuses that keep you stuck are nothing but habits you have created and changing habits is an important part of improving your life.

Once you have decided you want change, you’ve already gotten started. You have completed the first step: deciding you want something more.

Step 1:

The next step is to get out a journal and write how your ideal life would look. How would your days be spent? Who would you surround yourself with? How would you feel? How would you view yourself? Make this ‘the shoot for the moon’ list. No one else is going to see it, this is just for you, go for the gold.

Now it is your choice if you revisit this in the days and weeks to come or if you fold it up and put it somewhere for safe keeping. I like to revisit mine but that desire often fades.

Step 2:

Write out a list of things you enjoy. Big or small, but things you do and you really feel some joy, happiness, or excitement.

Here is how my list looks:

  • Feeling pretty
  • Having my nails done
  • Hugging my kids
  • Seeing if my son is taller than me yet
  • Walking the dog
  • Sitting quietly in the sunshine
  • Feeling grass on my bare feet
  • Getting a pedicure
  • Lunch with a good friend
  • Getting a massage
  • Kissing
  • Reading a book
  • Relaxing in a salt cave
  • Taking a bubble bath
  • Drinking a cocktail
  • Baking
  • Having a clean house
  • Making the bed
  • Watching the snow fall
  • Going to the kids sporting events
  • Watching fireworks
  • Meditating
  • Taking naps
  • Drinking fresh coffee
  • Hammocking
  • Hiking in the woods
  • Watching the sunrise
  • Watching the sunset
  • Seeing the moon outside my window
  • Having a glass of wine on an outside patio
  • Sitting at the beach
  • Swimming in a warm pool
  • Going to the hot springs
  • Listening to birds
  • Making pasta

Now, every day make the intention that you will add at least ONE thing that brings you joy and really bask in the joy that brings. While doing that activity see if you can pay closer attention to each of your senses. If you are outside on a walk, what do you smell? What do you see, feel, hear? Even if only for a moment at a time tune your attention so intensely to that moment and the gratitude you feel being able to do it. And that’s it! This is how you start. Let me know how it went for you.

If you are struggling to start a list of joys, please read my blog post ‘Joys when you are struggling’

I have done a YouTube video on the topic.

5 thoughts on “How to get started: add simple joys to your day.

  1. Yolanda Larkin

    This is great. I love the Day 1 Getting Started steps. Everything you said is spot on, its like you were in my head. Ha!
    I look forward to more content. I will get on the Mailing List!

  2. Briana Larson

    Such a great reminder how simple it is to start! It just takes that one conscious decision to decide to change your life!

  3. Hannah Mariani

    I love how your list has such a wide variety of “specialty”. Sitting in a rock cave isn’t something most of us can’t do EVERY day, but drinking a fresh cup of coffee is something many of us take for granted every day. Great examples!

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