Letting go for your dream life

Have you ever been told that in order to have what you want, you need to let go? I can tell you that when I first heard this, I was confused. How do I let go of something I want but also make it not feel so forced so that I am not actually letting go….?

In time, I have learned what letting go really means and how to use it in my day-to-day life. And in the podcast episode turned blog written below, I am going to share it all with you. I will talk about how letting go actually helps you expand into your future self, into the ideal self that you want to be.

Before we dive in, I want to assure you that figuring out this part truly helped me shift into such a peaceful and open state of being. 

Once I was able to learn how to not only let go of the things that did not serve me, the feelings that did not serve me, but also let go of the hold and control that I was attempting to have over everything that I wanted to have happen in my own life my entire world shifted and I began to receive things that had been blocked before. 

I firmly believe that we are all masters of our own fate, and that no matter where we’re starting from, we can actually get to where we want to be.

We can use our minds, the focus that we’re giving, the attention that we’re giving, and the way that we’re spending our time to really direct our lives so that we can live a life that we enjoy, and we can have the things that we want.

In the podcast I go over four areas for change and this blog posts starts with the first one, releasing the need for control. 

But first, you want to know what you want. This step is identifying the outcome you are seeking so you know where to place your attention. I have a podcast episode on this topic you can listen to here and also have a free guide to help you identify what it is you want.  

Now, let’s get into how you actually let go. 

Letting go of control

If you are anything like me, you may struggle with thinking about HOW something will come to you instead of the end outcome. Part of letting go is learning how to focus on the end solution instead of the how.

Instead, you will learn how to let go of the need to control and set an intention that is then given the space to work out for your best outcome. Once you make your intention you’re going to release it, and you do that by adding joy and gratitude into your day. 

It can actually be a very simple process.

I want you to start thinking of your thoughts and attention as an algorithm.

I can tell the algorithm what I enjoy to watch, like on TikTok or Instagram, I can say what I enjoy to watch by my attention.

How long I stay on the video, how much I interact with that video.

That then is telling the algorithm, yes, she enjoys this.

The things that I don’t pay attention to, they still show up in my feed, right?

If I’m scrolling through TikTok, I still will get content I have no interest in. 

That’s how you can think about your thoughts.

You don’t have to hold onto the thoughts and feelings you don’t want to entertain. You can let it go the same way that you would let go of a TikTok video that showed up in your feed that has nothing to do with you, is not aligned with the stuff that you want to watch, and is not aligned with how you want to spend your time.

You’re always training your mind to pay attention to what you actually want through your own algorithm.

Each morning and evening, you can set an intention for yourself and the life you want. Try to really focus on how you want to feel, how would it feel if you had your desired outcome? 

Then you will let go by focusing on things in life you enjoy. I call these daily joys, here is a blog post on how to get started with daily joys.

In order to change your life, you must change your habits and routines. 

I recommend that you spend time outside every single day, that you do some sort of physical activity every single day, and that you pick up some sort of new hobby. 

To recap:

  • Start paying attention to your thoughts, what are you telling your life algorithm you want more of?
  • Set an intention for yourself that is aligned to how you want to feel. 
  • Add daily joys to your day. 
  • Get outside, get some exercise, and find a new hobby you love. 

These simple shifts will have an immense effect on your life. 

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