You can change your life

Below I outlined the way I have found has worked brilliantly for me to become the person I want to be. I want you to understand that you can change your life. You can teach yourself how to become the person you want to be with daily focus, the more you focus and work towards your goal, the more you change your life.

I am going to try to keep this somewhat short so it remains digestible. And hopefully as actionable steps you can start taking today.

First, decide what you want. Seems simple but sometimes isn’t so I used some questions to help me get there.

  1. If you knew you only had one year left to live, what would you stop doing?
  2. If you knew you only had one year left to live, what would you start doing?
  3. How do you want to feel when you go to bed tonight?

For example, although I recommend you go deeper than this: I would stop spending 6 hours of my day scrolling my phone. I would start taking better care of myself and spend more time with my family. I want to feel relaxed and content when I go to bed.

Next, outline if you had your wish fulfilled what would your day look like. How would you spend your morning? How would you talk to yourself? What would you not do? What would you do? And you can keep it simple but what from those questions would fit into your ideal life? If you want to change your life, you have to know what it is you want to change to.

For example: I am completely financially secure so I wake up exciting for the day, I spend time in the morning reading, doing a workout, and working on writing my book. I take care of myself by going outside, enjoying time with family, and working on my hobbies.

So then, start asking yourself during the day if what you are currently doing is aligned to this person and this life you want.

For example: You want love in your life and have outlined a loved person would take a daily shower so they smell oh so nice for their partner and would be relaxed in the day and also enjoys to read, go to the gym, and play pickleball and would not check a certain persons IG 8 times a day to see if they are dating someone….hopefully this is starting to piece together.

So, if you find yourself about to go social snoop on someone ask if that is aligned to the person you want to be? If not, what can you do that is? AND keep it internal, don’t create conflict for yourself.

An example of creating some conflict is you want wealth. That does not equal going and maxing out your credit card because that would be creating conflict. You externally may repeat, ‘All is fine, I have plenty of money’ but internally are screaming, ‘If this doesn’t work I have NO IDEA how I will pay this off’ Internal wins, so instead find other ways to confirm wealth to yourself.

The last for this post is to start adding joy to your day. Make a list of things you like to do – like drinking a cup of coffee, taking a walk outside, enjoying a bubble bath, playing softball, etc. Then decide each day you will add 1-5 (however many you want) to your day and pay attention to your feelings while doing them. Pay attention to how it physically feels, how do you emotionally feel, just focus on that moment – even for 20 seconds, but really be there with yourself. I love using that first cup of coffee for this because I can focus on the warmth of it in my hands and as I drink it. This will create natural feelings of gratitude and contentment.

Don’t forget, you can change your life, and it can be very sustainable and an enjoyable process. Visit my YouTube channel if you would like to watch my series on changing your life.